So this has really
been playing on my mind recently, and I’ve been going through one of those phases where I feel so overwhelmed and I can’t seem to see the light in each day, I’ve
just felt like to much is going on at the moment and it’s been getting on top
of me.
I know everyone has these
days where they just want to sit slob out and forget about everything for a
day to recharge, relax and de-stress. But sometimes it’s not just for that one
day… sometimes it starts as a bad day, which turns into a bad week and then a
bad month and so on.
It’s so easy to lose
sight of why you’re working so hard for something, especially if you grind all
day everyday working your fingers to the bone for very little in return. I know
a lot of people especially in the industry that I work in that have drove
themselves to insanity because all they wanted was success, but what they
failed to do was look after themselves first.
Everyone wants to be
successful in their own career path, whether you work for yourself or for a big
company stress shows itself to everyone and we all deal with it in different
ways.
For me personally,
Ever since I left school 5 years ago I have worked hard every day trying to
perfect my skills, trying to push doors open for myself. As a make-up artist,
photographer, model, actress, hair stylist, pretty much anyone who works for
themselves, you have to work 24/7 there is no ‘I will do that later’ or ‘I can’t
be bothered’, those words are never used when work is concerned. If you’re
self-employed you have to be the business woman/man, the personal assistant, the
accountant, the recruitment agent, the social media executive and then you have
to do your actual job. If I had £1 for every time that I heard someone say to me ‘Oh
your job is so easy’ I would be a millionaire by now lol... I don’t think a lot
of people understand how much work and dedication it takes to be your own boss.
That’s why I thought
I would write this post to give you some tips on how to stay positive and keep
going whether you work for yourself or for a company.
I’m not going to lie
to you, there will be many times when you think to yourself ‘f**k this, I can’t
do this anymore’ and you will cry, you will get angry and you will wonder why
the hell you started in the first place. This will happen quite a lot…. But …. There
will also be days when you get emails or messages from people saying how much
you have helped them or inspired them in some way. There will be days when your
work is appreciated by the people working with you. The feeling you get for
simply being appreciated and acknowledged for all your hard work and dedication
is amazing, especially when you admire all of the people around you so much.
It’s the little
reminders that keep you going and make you realise why you have worked so hard.
I always take the time on days when I’m feeling low to sit and consciously remind
myself of why I do what I do and how it makes me happy. I might sit and read
through some uplifting old comments or emails that I had received, or maybe sit
and have a conversation with my mum she always makes me see the positive in
everything and she always praises and supports me in anything I do, it helps a
lot to sit and listen to what she has to say, somehow it helps me organise my
thoughts and it makes me feel 10 times better. I just think talking to anyone
that you’re close to is such a good way of relieving stress. Sometimes when you
talk about your worries and doubts out loud to someone you end up realising
just how insignificant they are…
I love to read motivational quotes or blog's, seeing other people working towards their dreams definitely inspires me. If you're not a big reader then type into YouTube 'motivational speeches' or something along those lines and I promise you, you will feel so inspired and uplifted it will make your even hungrier for success. Oh... and don’t forget laughter is the best medicine by
far, put on your favourite funny movie invite your best friends over and just
let yourself laugh so hard until your tummy hurts. It really does the trick!
Personally all I want
to do in my life time is help as many people as I can, inspire as many people
as I can, be a good woman, find love, look after my family, share good times
with amazing friends and make a living doing what I love to do and if I manage
to achieve anything else… well that’s just a bonus. That's what makes me
happy, and I think it is so important to do something that gives you happiness.
So remember… when you’re
having a bad day always make time for yourself, remind yourself how far you have come and how much you have achieved. Never give up on your dreams, they're closer today than they were yesterday!
Until next time my loves…
Keep Positive, Stay
Inspired, Be YOU.
Love Charlotte x
